You Are The ONLY One Who Can Lead Your Child’s Journey to Independent Living.

I'm Tutu Folorunsho

Hi!

Independent Living Guide, Founder of Being The System, Advocate, Visionary

Like you, I am a parent who has walked and is still walking this path.

And here’s the truth I had to learn the hard way: I could not lead anyone else through this until I first lived it myself. Not because I had all the answers, but because I was willing to face the questions no one else could answer for me.

From Survival to Strategy

When my son was diagnosed with autism at age three, I wasn’t afraid of the label. I was afraid of the unknown. What would his future look like? Could I make it happen? And what would happen to him if I couldn’t?

The early years were a storm. We moved countries twice, navigated broken systems, and faced the collapse of my marriage. I found myself raising two children alone — a non-verbal autistic six-year-old and a newborn — in a new country with no blueprint, no backup plan, and no clear direction.

I did what many parents do: I tried to piece it all together. I chased solutions. I started and stopped businesses. I went back to school. I earned certifications. I followed every path the world said might work.

And still — I felt like I was drowning.

The problem wasn’t my effort.

The problem was that I was building my life around systems that weren’t mine.

The Turning Point

It took breaking emotionally, spiritually, and mentally to see the truth: The only system that would work for my family was one I created.

I redefined my values, priorities, and expectations. I rebuilt my home, my routines, and my parenting — not to fit society’s standards, but to serve my son’s future and my family’s reality. I stopped parenting from overwhelm and started parenting from clarity.

AND SOMETHING SHIFTED
My son began thriving. Our home found rhythm. I built a career in IT that I love. And my son — once a non-verbal little boy — has graduated high school and is heading to college.

Because I know what it’s like to be the only one holding the vision for your child’s future — and to feel like you’re the only one who can connect all the moving parts.

I also know the cost of trying to do it through trial and error.

Independent living will look different for every child. But no matter where your child falls on the spectrum, the parent is the most important leader in that journey.

Not a teacher. Not a therapist. Not a program. You.

My role is to help you hold that vision, simplify the steps, and unite every person and system in your child’s life so they’re all working toward the same goal: Independent Living that is possible, sustainable, and supportive for your child.

Together, we create a plan that’s strategic, sustainable, and strong enough to stand — even when you’re no longer here to hold it.

Why I Created Being The System

What I Stand For

Leadership over luck – Your child’s future shouldn’t be left to chance.

Clarity over chaos – Complexity doesn’t have to mean overwhelm.

Systems that fit you – Because a system that works for someone else isn’t the one that will work for your life.

Being The System is not just a program.

It is a reclamation.

A way to design your child’s future with intention, confidence, and strategy — and to lead it.

Because your life didn’t end with the diagnosis. It began. And you don’t have to walk this path alone anymore.